I have always been told about the importance of family. “Blood is thicker than water.” “They will always be there for you.” “They will love you unconditionally.” Although I swallowed this wisdom without contemplation, age has forced me to throw it up. We now live in a time of fluidity and family is not excused from this. A person can choose their gender, a person can choose their sexuality and I truly believe a person can choose their family.
This stance may sound very passive aggressive, but my intention is only to share my opinion. I still consider my Mother to be my Mother, my Father to be my Father, my Brother to be my Brother and so on. However, I believe that the connections I have with my blood relatives can be replicated with those I am not related to. For example, there is a woman in my life that I have known since I was 15 years old. She has become my guardian angel. Whenever I find it difficult to exist, she strikes me with her blunt wisdom and brings purpose to my existence. We do not share the same blood but nevertheless, our souls are intertwined and that is why I will never subscribe to the exclusivity of family.
Blood being thicker than water is nothing more than a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you hear it enough, say it enough and believe it enough… it will manifest itself into reality. You will never find solace outside of your family because you do not believe it is possible. It is possible though. Start realising that human connection can be found in both blood and water. You can put together the jigsaw puzzle of your family and can choose which pieces fit and which pieces don’t. You have that power.
I have learnt that our lives are best lived in a state of fluidity. When we open ourselves up to the possibility of what was once considered impossible, life becomes different and different is good. If you take anything from this article, please take that. Don’t be a cookie-cutter person because there is very little that normality can teach you.